He’s a nurturing and protective boyfriend, and he seemed to have Houston’s best interest at heart, friends say. “I found him very kind.” Friends say they believe Ray J and Houston loved each other, even if they didn’t have a traditional committed relationship.“He encouraged her to be all she could be, to be the Whitney that we loved,” says a source. One source points to how—just like Brown—Ray J was trying to pitch a reality TV series with him and Houston.He’s released five albums on independent music labels and promoted them heavily, even when it wasn’t easy. He’ll do anything that he can to get his music out there to be heard.”On the night of Houston’s death, Ray J was in San Diego. I think Ray is going to be traumatized forever.”“He hasn’t talked to anybody yet. “He’s extremely dedicated to his craft,” says Paula Tuggey, a music executive who has worked on his recent albums. Steffans says she reached out to him out of concern.
It was with Ray that I discovered my ability to orgasm without penetration or copulation.”At the time of Houston’s divorce, Steffans tells The Daily Beast, “Bobby was crashing at my house, because he didn’t have a place to go.And Ray J called and wanted to give Bobby a message.He said something that was braggadocious, kind of in a taunting kind of way: ‘I’ve got your woman.’ It fuelled a not-so-good thing between him and Bob.”Ray J might have appealed to Houston because he’s the anti–Bobby Brown.According to friends, they had been casually seeing each other since her split with Bobby Brown in 2007. Houston didn’t mind the R & B singer canoodling with a houseful of women, because Ray J claimed it was just for the cameras.
“Ray was grounded in what was entertainment and what was reality,” says a source.
“When he was younger—13, 14, 15, 16—he was always with older women,” the source says.