President Kimball tells us, “Any dating or pairing off in social contacts should be postponed until at least the age of 16 or older, and even then there should be much judgement used in selections and in the seriousness.” President Kimball goes on to counsel us that beginning the dating process too soon almost always brings young immature marriages or immorality and sin. Missionary work must be done without hazard of emotional romantic involvement that leads to conditions which confuse the potential candidate as to his purpose in investigating or joining the Church, I am quite aware that we have faithful members of the Church who have joined as a result of exposure to the Church by their spouse. You will also get to know things about your date that you could not find out any other way because with more people, there is naturally more conversation. Do not make it a habit to be out late or up late for that matter. Resistance seems to be lower at night, so make it a habit to be in early from your dates. This kind of friendshipping should be done in groups. I am not talking about the serious sin of “petting”, but the lengthy make-out sessions that many feel are “okay” as long as you do not let it go too far. Girls, as hard as it may be, search until you can find a modest swimming suit or make your own! Dating in groups is not only safer, but you will find that it is much more enjoyable. Most proper functions will end in time for you to go straight home and be in on time. It is an excellent idea to double or group date for most of your dating until at least the age of 18. When he is returned from his mission at 21, he should feel free to begin to get acquainted and to date.” He tells us further that, “. NEVER be the cause of a young man deciding to stay home for any reason, for you will be held accountable! NO MISSIONARY WORK ONE-ON-ONE WITH MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. Sometimes when we start to like someone quite a bit, we tend to single date almost exclusively . When we are tired and have become more relaxed with each other through the evening, it is very easy to let down our guard . You both should be at your respective homes at this time. EACH PARTNER SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS. Never say to yourself, “this young man or woman is so good that they could never do anything wrong. He says that early dating is often done with parental approval, “yet it is near criminal to subject a tender child to the temptations of maturity.” Remember, NO STEADY DATING until after missions. President Kimball advises, “Every boy should have been saving money for his mission and be free from any and all entanglements so he will be worthy. one can have all the blessings if he is in control and takes the experiences in proper turn, first some limited social get-acquainted contacts, then his mission, then his courting, then his temple marriage and his schooling and his family, then his life’s work,” A word to you young ladies of the church: You should always encourage a young man to fulfill his mission. We are grateful for them; however, for every success story, there are numerous tragic stories of members and nonmembers alike being hurt by such, Have the faith to follow the prophet in this most important matter. As we get older, we tend to think that we are “above” group dating. Do not make single dating the largest portion of your dating. Not all moral problems occur late at night, but many, many do! THIS DOES NOT MEAN that if you go to one of your homes you can stay up longer than this hour. Never allow another person to control your actions.Sure enough, rule #7, Never go into the house or apartment of the opposite sex alone. It turns out that he had other things on his mind, because I never heard from him again, which is fine with me! But, I have never talked to a young person yet who has committed a moral transgression of ANY kind who has not broken several of these rules.I kind of feel like these rules will pull the weeds out of the dating field for me and help me to eliminate potential problems right at the beginning. Do not lie down by each other or on top of each other. Remember, breaking these rules interferes with Celestial Dating and falling in love. things that have contributed to many a Celestial candidate falling to a lower kingdom. If a dating partner is not willing to follow these rules or thinks they are too strict, DROP THEM FLAT! Don’t say to yourself, “Boy do I know so-and-so who needs these rules.” The rules are for you! Now these are not all of the rules we might follow in dating. It is virtually impossible to set them in the middle of a passion-filled night. If you want the help of the Lord and his blessings, follow his counsel. DO NOT THINK THAT YOU ARE THE EXCEPTION TO THESE RULES. On cold winter days, after interviewing a young lady in the Institute building, I would drive back to work and pass her on the road as she walked back to the dorm. Don’t ever think, “Oh, I would never do that so it is okay if I go into an apartment alone, or park, or whatever.” This is an open invitation to Satan to prove you wrong! The biggest error of all is to think that you are an exception to one of these rules.
Know exactly what you are going to do on a date before you go. As you date, especially with those you really like, discuss these rules and your standards so that you each understand what you expect from yourself and your relationship with each other.
Each partner should be responsible for his own actions. You must have firmly planted in your mind right from wrong, and do not let ANYONE talk you into anything that would not meet the Savior’s approval.