Yet most of us aren't fashion models or Hollywood stars.
Most of us are real, down-to-earth people who have a few extra curves or pounds.
Change comes from the bottom up: that is from the person who is in the most pain, or who has the least power, or who has lost or compromised too much in the relationship.” When you focus on changing your partner, you miss the opportunity to work together to come up with a solution. Instead, focus on the issues at hand to meet both of your needs.
Anger is usually a symptom of underlying hurt, fear, and frustration, so speak in I statements and focus on expressing your feelings in a vulnerable way that invites your partner to understand your pain, rather than pushes them away.
Do you spend more time questioning your partner’s words or actions than examining your own?
Blaming your partner can feel good in the moment, but it’s dangerous because it can lead to anger and resentment. After watching thousands of couples in his lab for over 40 years, Dr.
“I’ve asked Alicia to give me space, but things don’t appear to be changing.
A criticism attacks the core of a person’s character while a complaint focuses on a specific behavior.
(If you're interested in casual hook-ups, please look elsewhere.) Curves Connect is for anyone who self-identifies as curvy, plus-size, or having a few extra pounds or curves, and people who don't judge a book by its cover.
Ben and Alicia are both waiting for the other person to change. It feels like I can’t breathe.” “Ben has his friends over every weekend,” Alicia reflects.
That's why we started Curves Connect: So real people can be accepted just the way they are.
Curves is a dating site that promotes real people looking for meaningful relationships.We are responsible for how our words and actions make our partner feel.