Dating a girl much younger than you
I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Sometimes, I'd actually pick fights out of insecurity, just so I could utter the lines, “Maybe you'd be happier with someone who for certain has all of her eggs,” or, “Perhaps, you want someone who isn’t on a timeline of starting a family.” I am not a “cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.When the roles are reversed and an older man dates a younger woman, the men are often congratulated and revered.I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand.This is not the choice someone else may have made, they may have gone down a different path, or chosen a different type of partner.Moreover, I often want to hide away — to avoid family functions, social outings, and not have to face people eye to eye.But I know that hiding, crying and shouting does no good; I must show up as myself, courageously and yet graciously, and be the best person I can be.I have now resolved that it is not my job to win other people over.I now realize that it is not my role to win over family, friends, or anyone else who may wish to make a statement about our relationship.
My age has been a huge barrier for some to open their minds and hearts and get to know me simply as the person whom he loves.
No one can predict what lies ahead, and no one knows if they will be with someone forever, however long “forever” may be.2.
I believe that this is someone else’s issue and not my own.
I remind myself that no one can predict the future.
People say to him, “But what if she can’t have children?I know that I am a wonderful person, and if they are too close-minded to see me as what I am — a human with feelings, thoughts, stories, and love to give, then it isn’t my job to convince them otherwise.5. I have studied human behavior for years, and can pick up subtleties and nuances in people’s reactions and body language.