Dating etiquette books
It was common in the early to mid 1900s for both men and women to put up personal ads in the local paper.Young women would sell themselves to men in two sentences or less: "Young woman, age 20, attractive, refined, regular income, object: matrimony." Back in the '50s women were encouraged to take nothing short of long-term commitment and respect for a man.But what bothered me the most about Tinder was not that it was pushing our generation away from committed relationships — it was that it was encouraging our generation to do one thing and say another. Almost every dating app and site born in the last three years has been geared towards helping people find relationships, but used to help people find warm bodies and someone new to talk about at brunch every week.A few weeks ago, I came across a collection of 1950s etiquette books in a rare vintage book store.There was no time or social standard for small talk and dates over watered-down cocktails for four weeks before moving onto another cocktail and another man.This business-like attitude towards dating really got me thinking.While the modern man typically is not on an exclusive hunt for a woman with a major in baking and a minor in chores, he still seems to be attracted to the level of care a woman like that can give.Then again, there's no quicker way to anyone's heart than pie.
Instead of bringing people together for committed relationships, Tinder just gave people a lift over the horizon to see more fish in the sea.
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