Dating multiple men at the same time
I'll know when my heart tells me which one of these guys is the right one.One may have the best butt; the other may have an impressive beard. When you're seeing two guys at the same time, they're rarely similar.You end up so overwhelmed as you try to balance your evenings between your boyfriends -- AND make time for your friends. Eventually, all of the lies and the sneaking around will catch up to you. Within moments, your whole romantic life implodes, leaving you sad and alone. After a lot of tears and heavy guilt, you accept that you handled the situation in all of the wrong ways. You stop blaming the universe and realize that are the one who messed up. That ever-dreaded plague, the thing that keeps you wrapped up in both relationships: FOMO.You keep up the charade as long as you possibly can, hoping that the world will decide for you. You don't want to choose wrong and end up with nothing.Oh, I guess I called you John because my best friend John just texted me. It is straight-up exhausting to date two people at once. It's a little voice whispering, “You need to pick one. They're going to find out.”You try to picture life with just one boy, but you can't. You find yourself making up all kinds of ridiculous fabrications to keep both the guys separated from each other.
My friend P (and no, her real name is not just a letter but if you're friends with P, then you're friends with me) put it best.Best-case scenario: It happens when you're out and about.You can backtrack immediately and do serious damage control: “What?Everyone Is Doing It This is less of a rule and more of a fact to keep in mind: That guy you're on your first date with is on his fourth first date this month, and so are you.
My friend P (and no, her real name is not just a letter but if you're friends with P, then you're friends with me) put it best. The situation feels hopeless until, suddenly, you're on a great first date, and that turns into a second. But you keep your options open; you commit to a date with someone else ... This hardly seems fair to you -- and to the two men you're seeing.