Dating your coworker
If your company handbook doesn’t require a trip to human resources, it’s your call on how to proceed.
“As long as the relationship does not fall into a prohibited liaison and is not creating a disruption to the work, there is no reason for HR to be involved,” says Valerie Keels, a member of the Special Expertise panel of the Society for Human Resources Management (SHRM).
“In my opinion, the only time these relationships should be reported to HR is when they break an organizational rule or if it’s creating a disruption to the individuals’ work.”Still, it comes down to your comfort level.
And it’s worth noting that people tend to hit up human resources a relationship ends — so it might be worth notifying HR anyway, especially if it’s recommended in your company policy.
Some companies may actually insist on a relationship contract, or a signed statement that you’re in a consensual relationship, which safeguards the company from any claims of unchecked sexual harassment or inappropriate behavior.
From a social (and ethical) standpoint, consider people who are already attached to be off-limits — no exception.
While co-workers can be surprisingly supportive of office relationships, that won’t happen if they suspect you (or your significant other) of playing favorites.And yes, they really are that common: According to a 2018 Career Builder survey, 36 percent of people have dated a co-worker, 30 percent have dated a superior, and 22 percent have had an office romance with their manager or direct boss.On some level, it’s understandable why people would be inclined to date their co-workers.She recommends breaking the news with an announcement that’s brief and to the point by saying something like, “Yes, we had a date, but I’d like to keep that between us, if you don’t mind.” You can even do the same with your manager if you have a friendly rapport.
Otherwise, when the truth comes out about a secret relationship, colleagues might feel betrayed.
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