Dealing with rejection in dating
Or rather, at some point or other, we established a certain response as our go-to, and we never bothered to alter that response moving forward. Let me give you two scenarios, and let's see if you can tell which one warrants a response of feeling rejected. Whether they're trying to find a significant other or close a business deal, they manage to pick themselves up and continue on their merry way. Not that we aren't capable of it, but we choose not to be. It's how you react to rejection that makes all the difference.I couldn’t help but reflect on what happened with these three guys as a perfect encapsulation of why my being single has so little to do with .Note: I share the details of their appearance and other traits only to prove that these guys are not model/hot bod/young/multi-millionaire dudes. Additionally, if you are unfamiliar with Bumble, the woman has to reach out first.Some people assume that I (and other women) have set the bar too high.
He did not answer me and I have never heard another word from him. I very rarely cancel dates, but I had to reschedule. I get blown off and canceled on and ignored and asked out at the last minute possible all. He added that he would be moving earlier that day, but hoped he would free up that evening.I told him that I didn’t have any plans yet and was happy to stay flexible. We hung up and I never heard another word from him all week. I have recently stopped doing that at the request of my therapist as well as several of my guy friends (even some here on Medium).Non Date #3: He was the least attractive (to me — he is not an unattractive guy), but had a lot of positive things going for him. I apologized, gave him plenty of notice about my needing to reschedule, and threw out alternative dates. He then cancelled on me, asking to re-schedule again. Here’s the thing: this is reflective of how online dating frequently seems to go for me (and so many others)!
I happily complied and we locked into a new day, this Friday. He cancelled totally, sharing that he is now in an exclusive relationship with someone else. When I tell someone that I have a date planned in theory, he will often tell me that I’m being negative.
The following Saturday night around 7 pm I finally heard from him.