Herpies online dating
I soothed the worries of distraught parents asking if their newly diagnosed teenage daughter’s clothes could be washed with everyone else’s or if they could still babysit their younger cousin.By the time I was diagnosed with Herpes Simplex Virus 2 (HSV-2) in 2015, I was well-versed in the stigma surrounding HIV and STDs.My first post-diagnosis date came along and I cautiously told him via text that I had herpes.I felt like I was telling some big, bad secret, but he swore he was fine with it and we moved along in our conversation. I have provided HIV and STD prevention education to a variety of audiences.I’ve advanced in my career, been acknowledged for my contributions to the field of public health, and honored as a queer woman for contributing positively to the LGBTQ community.
It started with the diagnosing provider, who seemed to suggest that I should have known better, that I should have been more responsible given my profession.It was in this moment that I took complete ownership of herpes, and suddenly felt empowered by this guy’s ignorance. But, I was the one with the virus and I was the one with the knowledge.I used that to take back the power in this situation.When I decided to date again, I made a point to tell any possible date either before our first date or on our first date.
Even after clumsily disclosing to my partners months earlier, I initially felt unequipped to handle the conversation with potential dates.
In the years that followed, I got so bold as to include my status in my online dating profile.