Physical intimacy in dating
PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, “Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship,” sought to apply some of the principles we’ve discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.
We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.
You can also discuss things like interests, family, emotional issues, etc.
Guys, again the brunt of the work falls to you here. Let me also reiterate that, like asking someone to date initially, It’s just a marker to say things are going well, and as far as you’re concerned, the game is changing.That in and of itself can become a temptation — and the more you go over it and over it in your mind, the stronger the desire becomes and the less egregious the sin becomes (in your own mind, that is).Finally, keep in mind that it is still not advisable to have long, intimate prayer times together at this stage.Also, do clearly discuss limits on your physical involvement (in other words, reiterate that there will not be one) and put methods of adhering to those limits in place.
That said, don’t make physical involvement — even a lack thereof — a frequent topic of conversation.If you’ve gone through the early stage of the relationship and truly feel before God (to whom you will give account for your decision) that you should begin to get more intimately involved with this woman because you think marriage to her is a good possibility, you have to tell her. If done well, it should actually put you both at ease moving forward.