Speed dating philippines 2016
While the events were lighthearted and fun, the realizations I had about myself and about speed dating in general were not.
This is the story of my time spent speed dating, and why I decided to give up this method of finding a meaningful relationship.
I went into speed dating for the wrong reasons, and I went into it at a time when I didn't realize being able to talk to 60 women was a chance to improve myself socially, the way the Korean daters probably did.
That perspective check was refreshing, and it was why I decided to give up speed dating entirely: to avoid competing with others and myself so I can better the kind of person that I am.
If there's an equally high score between two individuals, the organizer of the speed date will send you the other person's number the day after so you can talk to them. Some may want to see speed dating as a crapshoot, where the types of people you meet and the quality of conversation you get is entirely dependent on who decides to play.
While the amount of time you have to spend with each person on a date varies with each organizer — 7 minutes for some, 15 for others — the realization that it's a time-bound attempt to get someone's attention is a little unsettling. At the same time, it is poker, as you contend with a number of other people aiming to connect with someone else during the dates.
As a hybrid Filipino-Portuguese-Chinese-Spanish type, I sheepishly replied to each one, " (No, I'm a Filipino)." Some were disappointed, others were amused, but for 3 people practicing their English with women to color the experience of every other guy at an event without intending to, that was a stroke of devious genius on the organizer's part.
You become less of the type of person you are as you try to find someone who fits this image you have in your head of "The One." That was my problem with speed dating: the reasons I had for doing it were vastly different from what some would say is the purpose of speed dating: to meet other people.Again, please keep their identity a secret Click on the "Continue" button search with your zip/postal code.