Watch free couple chat
With my current setup with Adam, he knows that yes, I am attracted to other people and am sleeping with some. And there’s no confidence booster like remembering that it’s me whom he comes home to and loves deeply. He knows all of my quirks, he knows what makes me tick and how to reason with me.
Nobody knows me like Adam does, and nobody is going to know him like I do.
Once, I saw a Facebook profile of someone he ended up sleeping with, and she was absolutely stunning.
That was hard for me because I couldn’t help but compare myself to how I perceived her online (most of which was just illusions filled in by my very own brain, of course). Just because he was the cause of my hurt, it didn’t mean I couldn’t wait to run into his arms and have him comfort me. In monogamous relationships in the past, I was incredibly jealous all the time.
We make a point not to spend too much time with secondary partners. But that's something we've never really had to make an effort for.
We can, and sometimes do become friends with them, especially if they hang around for a couple years, but we have to cut it off if it becomes more than that. Rule 3: Always get consent from the person who’s getting involved.
Adam and I enjoy variety, and we know firsthand that the presence of other lovers doesn’t diminish the feelings we have for each other.
Adam and I keep our lovers separate (more on that later).I have a good friend who lives apart from her boyfriend; she has several regular male and female lovers, while he travels the world, finding spontaneous sexual encounters along the way.