Your online dating experience
Do not make a snarky comment about it and don’t add 2 inches, just include it in your info matter-of-factly. So, yes, most of you will need to lower your expectations even more.Having said that, if you are decent looking, reasonably in shape or funny or intelligent or charming (or some combination), financially stable, and not trying to date super hot 25 year olds, you should be able to find some awesome chicks.You are also VERY likely to encounter: emotionally unavailable women, women with walls, women who are going to get wasted a lot (might be fine if you are just looking for some fun sex), confusing women, confused women, women who use sex to get back at an ex, dramatic women, dishonest women.In fact, let me flesh out what “dishonest” tends to look like for women based on the stories I’ve heard from the guys I have dated/my male friends: Weight (very common), number of kids (really), age, drug use, ex drama, and/or solely looking for a free meal (more common with younger women).You don’t have to necessarily put anything in your profile, but should come clean with your intentions as quickly as possible.(Exception: if you are catagory (a), put that in your profile.)I am unfailingly grateful when a guy writes that he is looking for an NSA.Be prepared and navigate it as best as you can.~Remember that most of the “bad” behavior from others has to do with you! Bonnie was off the dating market from 1998 (when she met her now ex-husband) till early 2014.
If there was a Masters in Online Dating, Bonnie’s earned it.She’s going to ask you for money to get back home, to visit you, or for a new phone so she can send you even more provocative photos. I have met some very special guys on Bumble/Match/OKCupid. Be open-minded (and realistic) about potential dates. Don’t take the process any more seriously than necessary.~Expect weird/bizarre/annoying/even hurtful things to happen as part of the process.~Yes, you are going to get ghosted, ignored, the run-around, and an array of other alarming behaviors.Although my track record is poor, online dating sites/apps gave me two very dear friends, a serious beau, and the opportunity to meet some pretty great guys. One of my close straight guy pals regularly dates online and has had a fair amount of success (and many disappointments, too, of course). Be interesting in your correspondence instead of lazy and predictable. Most of us do our best to avoid them, but you cannot always tell who is going to suddenly flake out or get weird or become defensive. A special thanks to today’s muse, Heath ዟ.*Surely I’m not the only one to notice that many poly/kink-friendly folks can be REALLY specific in their “requests.” To each his or her own!This means: (1) That Bonnie is a failure at dating AND (2) She’s accumulated a lot of experiences and knowledge about the dating landscape for middle-aged chicks in Austin.
Whether you love it or hate it, online dating is here to stay. And there are no hard and fast rules for how to do it right.
Unlike meeting a potential partner through a mutual friend, you don't know much about the people you meet online. Make sure that your first date is somewhere in public (movies, dinner, theme park, etc). " While it might be tempting to use glamour shots of you that were taken ten years ago, don't do it.